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Somebody told me of your website. It was most interesting to read.
However, with us it is "the other way round". My wife is Iranian and I
am a Swiss man. We are together for 5 years now (whereof 3 years
married). This kind of relationship is quite different from the
woman-foreign-man-Iranian style. Is there a website called
"shoharkhaleh" which is for us foreign men?
There are just two things I would like to mention here:
Travelling to Iran:
I have travelled to Iran three times and in September I will go there
for my fourth time (6 weeks, and it won't be the last time,
ensha'allah). I have put up a website with my experiences which might be
interesting to your readers. Its URL:
I think that learning Farsi is - compared to other languages - not very
difficult if you have the determination to really learn it and use it. I
practice it a lot with my wife and with Iranian friends. I think that
without speaking Farsi I would never have loved my stays in Iran that
much. If you can't talk to the people you will miss a lot of things. In
mixed relationships it is - in my opinion - essential to have a
knowledge of your partner's language. I would never want my partner to
speak to our children in a language I don't understand.
However, I must admit that for Americans it is difficult because they
are generally not used to learn and speak foreign languages. It is much
easier to learn your 5th foreign language than your first.
Sorry for the male intrusion
Thomas, you can find Shoharkhaleh at http://www.farsinet.com/shoharkhaleh/.
Love A Moslem: A Support Group for Christian Women Dating or Married to Muslims
-- I am one of the moderators for Love a Muslim (LaM) at
http://www.domini.org/lam/, an on-line support group for mostly
women either dating or married to a Muslim.
I enjoyed visiting your site and I read all the letters. I find ZanAmu
very interesting, useful and complementary to our site LaM.
The "Loving a Muslim" (LaM) mailing list is a forum and support group for
non-Muslim women (mostly Christian) dating or married to Muslim men.
The purpose is to share our experiences and questions among ourselves,
learn from each other and encourage each other.
Please visit our site and join LaM mailing list to participate.
Interracial relationships can be wonderful because ...
I have just finished browsing through your web site and enjoyed it very much.
I have been with an Irainian man for 5 years and we share a 4 year old son.
He is a good man, and his family has been very welcoming. His mother came
and stayed with us for almost 2 weeks, and I enjoyed her visit a great deal.
She did not speak much english, but we did have great conversations using
the farsi words I knew and the english words she knew. I was sad to see her
go, and wish that I was able to travel to Iran to see her. It can be quite
costly to travel there from Canada, but I do hope to one day go there.
I have done a great deal of reading about Iran and learned much about the
culture, and find it to be one of the most beautiful cultures around.
I really love the food, and enjoy cooking it. I have also learned to enjoy
eating a lot of rice!!
I think that interracial relationships can be
wonderful because you can have the best of 2 cultures, and I want our
son to know both of them. I also think that children from interracial relationships are the most beautiful children, because they inherit the
best characteristics from both cultures.
I also think that there are a
lot of misconceptions about Iran and people, especially men, from Iran.
I think that Western society may have more problems then Iranian society,
because we can be a very rude and disrespectful culture. Also, abuse
happens every where. Women in western society are probably being abuse
more than Iranain women, however, there abuse is conceptualized differently
because their laws are different from ours. Don't get me wrong, I love
where I am from, but I hate how people are constantly giving me the
reactions that they are when they hear that I am with an Iranian man.
I love him dearly, and am proud that he is from Iran!!! May!!
A wonderful initiative ... Like to learn Farsi
What a wonderful initiative, to set up a site for multicultural
relationships! My partner and I have been together for almost five years.
He was born in Iran and moved to the US when he was 11. We don't experience
any other problems than anybody else would. My mother-in-law is the
sweetest person on earth, but unfortunately she never learned to speak
English. I myself am from the Netherlands and have been searching for Farsi
classes, but haven't been very successful yet. It would be nice if one day,
when my mother-in-law calls, I can surprise her and have a conversation
with her. What I'm hoping is that maybe someone who reads this can help me
find out ways to get accustomed to the language. It would be fun to know
some Persian expressions and sayings. Good luck to all of you.
Some ideas & Suggestions
Zanamu, I have some suggestions and ideas.
- Ideas for teaching children both Farsi and English and developing fluency
in both languages.
- Tips for traveling to Iran with a small child (under 1 year old)
- Ideas for teaching religion to a child whose parents are of different
- Ideas for teaching Iranian culture as well as American culture to a child
- Tips for traveling to Iran for the first time
Just a few ideas that I would like to see included.
- To have a travel area where people can write about their experiences while
traveling to Iran. Perhaps we could include pictures, too.
- To have a list of suggested books for learning Farsi. Also include where
the books can be purchased.
- To have a list of suggested books for learning about Iranian culture.
- To have an area where people can talk about cultural difficulties that have
come up during their marriages and how the difficulties were resolved.
- To have an Iranian/American joke area
- To have a Iranian recipe area
- To have a cheap airfare to Iran area where we can recommend consolidators
who can be trusted
Some of the most urgent, but the least scholarly investigated issues
I just visited your site and found it very interesting. I think it
is a wonderful idea to have a site where non-Iranian members of Iranian
communities across the globe can express their feelings and share their
experiences on such issues as the Iranian culture, the Iranian-Amerian
family, the Iranian-American identity, and the second generation
Iranian-Americans who have a non-Iranian parent. As a social scientist
with trainings in cultural and cross-cultural issues, I have to admit
that these are some of the most urgent, but the least scholarly
investigated issues, that have concerned many Iranian-American or I
should say Iranian-NonIranian families in exile.
I hope more people visit you site and share their thoughts and
feelings as well as their suggestions. I will definitely visit your
site periodically and will try to share my views with other.
Good luck to you and best wishes.
A simple alef ba ye Farsi poster for children
I am a mother of four and a new addition to the Iranian community
My name is Annette and I have four children Savita, Kaevon,
Arian and Keyaan who all speak the Persian language but I wanted to keep their
interest in the written language as well.
To do this I created and designed a simple alef ba ye farsi poster with
full colour and beautiful illustrations to help them remember and learn
I would like to get this poster out to other parents to help their
children learn the language just like mine. There is no monetary
interest in this, whatever it is, it covers my cost for the poster and
helps me to finance a free colouring sheet which I create and
distribute to Iranian children in Canada to encourage them to learn
words and writing. In Shahrvand's newspaper from Friday April 24th
1998, please visit the children's page and you can see an example of
the colouring sheet that I do, their web site is www.shahrvand.com.
The name of the poster is Avalien Ghadam and I would like to let
parents know that it's available. The price is $12.00 Cdn and includes
taxes and shipping and handling.
The size is 22" x 34" and it's a beautiful four colour.
To order the poster in US, send a $10 money order (including shipping & handling)
P.O. Box 31056
475 Westney Road N.
My e-mail address is Annette.Despot@grace.com